Last year I made a YouTube video, “Why You Shouldn’t Overthink Major Life Decisions” discussing how I moved to Florida when I was 23 years old. I just made it for fun but as I write this, the video has over 40k views and hundreds of comments from all sorts of people, who are apparently, interested in moving to Florida. Or something…
The video wasn’t intended to be some kind of literal “how-to guide for moving” but that’s how some viewers choose to see it, of course.
The purpose of that video was not to advocate making thoughtless, reckless decisions, “Fuck it bro, you only live once man! Just do whatever man, who cares what happens!”
Here’s what I do advocate…
Overthink the fuck out of your vision so you don’t get hung up overthinking major life decisions.
When you have a clear vision for where you’re trying to go in life and what you want to do, deciding to move halfway across the country won’t be much of a decision. You’ll just know that’s what you have to do. That’s all there is to it. End of story. Done.
Whether you have .02¢ or $1m, it really won’t matter. You’ll figure it out and do whatever it takes to make it happen.
If you’re completely broke, then obviously that’s something you need to address and take into consideration. Why are you broke? What’s your game plan? How are you going to make some money? Are you doing everything you can to improve your financial situation or are you just complaining about being broke and feeling sorry?
If you’ve made a series of thoughtless decisions up to this point in your life that make it difficult to pick up and move, well then, guess what? That’s something you have to figure out and deal with. Do you have a complicated relationship with someone and child custody issues? Well, obviously that’s going to affect your decision making processes. At least it should.
But the more thought and careful consideration you channel into your long term vision, from an early age, the less time you’ll have to spend thinking about and second guessing each step along your path.
In other words, if you have to spend six months deciding if you should look for a new job, move somewhere, get married, start a business or any number of common “major life events”, then most likely your vision is probably lacking in some form or another. You simply haven’t stepped back and thought long and hard enough about who you are, what you value, what you represent and what you want your overall life to look like down the road.
If you’re planning a cross country road trip, you don’t just get in your car and start driving in random directions and checking your map at every intersection. You look at the map before you leave, find your destination, get a general idea of which direction you need to travel, plot your route and figure out some good checkpoints along the way. You don’t plan every IHOP or gas station stop, but you get an idea of where you’re going.
Now when you get in your car and start driving, you don’t have to pull off the highway every 10 miles just to look at your map, scratch your head and figure out if you’re still on the right track.
Instead, you can just cruise and enjoy the ride!